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But isn’t punishment and discipline a good way to teach kids a lesson? Not so, according to Alfie Kohn, author of Unconditional Parenting and a host of other books on discipline and education. “To punish or discipline a child is to deliberately make a child feel bad in the hopes that this will have a positive result,” says Kohn. “But all that punishment can ever buy you is temporary compliance, and at a very high cost. The real lesson it teaches is about power: Those with more of it can coerce those with less of it to do whatever they demand. It makes kids more self-centered, less concerned about the impact of their actions on others… . No wonder we have to discipline a child over and over: The problem isn’t with the child; it’s with the whole idea of punishment.”

via (Parent Map)

This paragraph is so amazing I could cry. It perfectly sums up my thoughts, feelings and opinions toward discipline. I also feel that is another reason the justice system in this country NEEDS a major makeover. Prison is temporary compliance at a very high cost.

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